It's time for another Life Lessons segment, and today we're going to be talking about the movie Bride Wars. At first glance, Bride Wars is a cheesy rom-com - capitalising on the bridezillas of the earth, and the billion dollar wedding industry that profits from them. But the movie surprisingly has some very thoughtful and insightful moments. Not only was I entertained, but I also took away some valuable teachings from this film. So without further ado, let's begin!
1. Sometimes your college/high school sweethearts are not the one for you anymore.
If you are really lucky in life, the first person that you spend your life with - that you first fell in love with, first held hands with - may be the person you decide to spend the rest of your life with. But for most people that isn't the case. Your first love isn't always the person you are destined to be with. As life goes on, people begin to change and adapt to their environments. They evolve, and you may find that you no longer be the people you first fell in love. Sometimes in relationships people can grow apart instead of together. So a love that was once to bright and pure, may no longer be the best situation for you in the long haul.
2. Soulmates aren't just romantic
It seems these days Hollywood has implanted in the brains of our society that our soulmates are the people we spend the rest of our lives with - our spouses, our one true love. They are the people we fell in love with and are deeply committed too. But what about the other most important people in our lives - friends. Not all relationships are romantic, and neither are soulmates. I believe people can connect with each other platonically and still be soulmates. It's a possibility I've witnessed in my everyday life.
3. It's okay to mess up and not be perfect
During the movie, the usually strong put-together Kate falls apart when the stress of the wedding and bride wars becomes too much. She is losing control of everything, and it is crushingly overwhelming for her. The idea that we must have everything in control and planned out is just so much pressure. Sometimes it can further our ambitions. But it can also be so disheartening and soul-crushing, especially when everything just seems to be falling apart. In those moments the best thing you can do is mourn, understand that it's okay that nothing is going to plan because life isn't perfect. You need to pull yourself together and let yourself breathe before rushing back into the deep end again.
4. When one door closes another opens
As we say goodbye to the college sweetheart, we say hello to the best friends brother, who swings Emma off her little feet just when she needed it. Often in life without realising when something goes out of your life, it's usually to make room for something different. Don't regret that change - because it probably is what you need. This path may take you on a journey you never expected but it will be worth it - even if you don't understand why in the present moment. Hold on to your beliefs.
5. Stand up for yourself
Often as children, we are told to be kind to one another. To treat each other with respect and be nice. But the world isn't always so nice and lovely. There are times where you have to stand up for yourself - and no one else can do it for you. You have to take the reins of your life, and make sure that the people around you treat you with the respect you deserve. Don't let yourself become exploited. Set some boundaries in place and maintain them so that you know not to let yourself become used and abused for your talents and nice attitude.
What moments did you most enjoy from Bride Wars?
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